Without outside recognition, there is the danger that a phlegmatic may never recognize his talents and skills and never be motivated to activate them. It also boosts his confidence and may spur him to action. As a natural introvert, the phlegmatic may not broach these feelings until it is too late.Įncouragement helps a phlegmatic thrive. Phlegmatics are very easy going, so easy going that they sometimes stall in action for indefinite periods of time.Ĭonsider: A phlegmatic may appear compliant but if they are pushed for too long to do something they dislike, they will harbour resentment that will sooner or later explode out of them like a volcano. A very personal attack will just encourage the choleric to close up, withdraw emotionally, and possibly take revenge. Avoid making a choleric feel vulnerable. Approach the complaint from an objective rather than offensive stand-point. After the choleric has finished fuming, she will look at the situation logically and may even agree with you. If things were bad enough to lead to this confrontation in the first place, then your complaint has merit. An immature choleric may take the opportunity to make an ad hominem attack, do not back down, apologize, or change your complaint unless you think it appropriate. Ask questions like, “Did you realize that when you did this that people were upset?”Īfter giving your short, concise complaint or disagreement, give the choleric time to “temper down” if necessary. Give her a chance to explain her actions. Get a choleric to talk about her reasoning. Avoid the talk of hurt feelings and delve into justice, honour, and appropriate behaviour. Cholerics, like melancholics, are more attuned to ideals than relationships. Avoid the appearance of a head to head combat or else the choleric will be tempted by nature to fight and defend herself.Īppeal to the choleric’s sense of honour. First make it clear that you are on the choleric’s side. Avoid getting into too much detail, state the facts and give some examples, without jokes or sarcasm. Be transparent in your actions, speak as clearly as possible, and remain calm without reacting to the possible inflammatory reaction. Imagine you are a glass of water and the choleric is a small fire. The choleric’s bossiness or bulldozing needs to be addressed before problems get worse because typically a choleric does not see herself at fault and so will not self-address the issue (which is unapparent to her). The choleric does not always know when she is rubbing other people the wrong way unless someone tells them. What do you do? Do you continue to let her cause you harm? Do you wait it out? I recommend confronting the choleric in a meaningful conversation.Ĭonsider: the choleric’s blind spot includes other people’s feelings. Or is bulldozing yours and others’ feelings-obliviously. Now it is quite possible that there is a choleric in your life who has become bossy to the point of being tyrannical. The choleric is known for her temper, her inability to back down willingly, her love of argument-for the sake of argument.
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